My coworker stole cash meant for disabled folks

DEAR ABBY: I’ve a ethical and moral dilemma. I nominated a co-worker for a profit by way of our firm. The individual was awarded what I take into account to be an excellent sum ($5,000) for alternative listening to aids.

Seven months have passed by and this individual “nonetheless has the examine” and hasn’t used the cash for its meant objective. They purchased two “beater” automobiles and took a visit to New York Metropolis. I really feel like I used to be duped. Ought to I name the hotline and let the inspiration know my suspicions, or let it go? I really feel that this individual received away with what I really feel are soiled deeds. What to do? — REGRETTING IT IN THE WEST

DEAR REGRETTING IT: “What to do” is contact the inspiration that despatched the beneficiant examine, clarify your considerations and go away the ball of their courtroom. They could, certainly, want to observe up — and probably inform the police — if there was fraud concerned.

DEAR ABBY: I’m caught in a rut right here. My girlfriend is anxious and depressed. I really like her very a lot, and I wish to assist her. I perceive that somebody with anxiousness and melancholy is usually a handful, however generally I really feel like I’m coping with an excessive amount of. My girlfriend is so deep on this state that regardless of how I attempt, it looks as if she doesn’t need my assist in any respect. How do I take care of this? I really feel like I’m going mad. — NEED GUIDANCE IN THE EAST

DEAR GUIDANCE: I’m positive you’re keen on your girlfriend very a lot, however you will need to notice that melancholy and anxiousness are medical circumstances. You can not “repair” them. Essentially the most useful factor you are able to do in your girlfriend could be to persuade her to debate what’s happening along with her physician so she might be referred to a licensed psychological well being supplier. Medicines can be found that might assist her, in addition to speak remedy, which she may additionally want.

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been a dental assistant for greater than 20 years, and I’d wish to share an remark together with your readers. Through the years, we’ve seen many sufferers who diligently handle their oral hygiene. Then, all of the sudden, we discover decay each clinically and on X-rays — after years of no decay. We ask them, “Are you taking a brand new treatment that’s inflicting dry mouth? Have you ever began consuming some totally different beverage? Have you ever been consuming extra sweets?” As a rule, they inform us nothing’s modified.

The issue usually is sugar the place they don’t anticipate it — in fiber dietary supplements, meal alternative shakes, gummy nutritional vitamins, chewable antacids, vitamin water, and many others. A lot of this stuff include a stunning quantity of sugar. Please encourage your readers to learn the diet labels of their dietary supplements. It might save their enamel. — ANTI-DECAY IN DALLAS

DEAR ANTI-DECAY: Thanks very a lot for educating my readers and me. That is one thing I had by no means thought-about, and I’ll guess a lot of them haven’t both. Your letter is a crucial one, and I hope they are going to heed it as I plan to.

Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.